Women & Trust: Keep this Between us! 

 May 24, 2023

By  Jane Frankland

Do you ever think about how different men and women are when it comes to trust? Have you ever wondered whether women are trusted more than men, or noticed in your own organisation or daily life that trust sometimes seems easier for men, but tougher for women?

I believe as leaders, we must constantly be aware of the uniqueness of our people when developing an atmosphere conducive to effective workflows. That’s why in this week’s blog, I’m diving into the differences between men and women when it comes to trusting one another – keep this private just between us!

An introduction to the subject of sex differences when it comes to trust

When it comes to trust, there are certainly some sex differences at play. Now, before you roll your eyes and groan “men are from Mars, women are from Venus,” let’s delve a bit deeper. While both men and women have the capacity to trust others, studies have found that women tend to rely more heavily on their intuition and gut feelings when deciding whether someone is trustworthy. Men, on the other hand, are more likely to base their trust on tangible evidence, such as past actions or reputation. Of course, this is not a hard and fast rule, and each person is unique in how they approach trust. But it is interesting to consider how sex and gender may influence our perceptions of trust and trustworthiness – more on that next week.

The biological and societal reasons for women having a higher level of trust in certain areas

There are biological and societal reasons for women tending to trust their intuition and gut feelings more than men. From a biological perspective, women have a larger anterior cingulate cortex, which is the part of the brain responsible for emotion and decision making. This means that women may be more in tune with their emotions and able to read social cues (faces and persons) more accurately. Additionally, societal factors such as gender roles and expectations have taught women to be more empathetic and nurturing, which can translate into higher levels of trust in certain areas. So, the next time you hear a woman say, “I just have a feeling about this,” take it seriously. It’s likely a result of her biology and upbringing.

How does this impact relationships between men and women

In today’s world, it’s important to acknowledge the impact that language has on relationships between men and women. Words are powerful and can carry underlying messages or biases that can influence how we interact with each other. Research studies have shown that language can reflect and perpetuate gender stereotypes, with men being seen as more assertive and competent, while women are often described in more communal and nurturing roles. This can lead to a power dynamic between the genders, where men may feel entitled to speak over women or take on leadership roles, while women may feel silenced or overlooked. By being aware of our language and actively working to challenge gender stereotypes, we can create more equitable and respectful relationships between men and women.

The importance of communication in understanding each other’s perspectives

Communication is the lifeline that connects individuals and allows them to understand each other’s perspectives. Without effective communication, it’s easy to misinterpret what someone is saying or thinking, leading to conflicts and misunderstandings. That’s why it’s crucial to have open and honest communication with others, especially in our daily interactions. It helps us to gain a better understanding of one another, and also helps to bridge the gap between different cultures, backgrounds, and experiences. When we take the time to communicate effectively, we create a safe and inclusive environment where everyone feels heard and valued. It’s So the next time you find yourself in a conversation, take a moment to truly listen and understand the other person’s perspective. It can lead to a deeper connection and a better appreciation for one another.

Tips for building trust between men and women

Building trust between men and women can be challenging, but it’s important for healthy relationships both personally and professionally. One tip for building trust is to communicate openly and honestly. This means being vulnerable and sharing your thoughts and feelings without fear of judgment. It also means actively listening and striving to understand the other person’s perspective, and ensuring an “I’m OK, you’re OK,” result. Another tip is to follow through on your promises and commitments. When you consistently keep your word, others will begin to trust you more. Additionally, showing respect and empathy towards the other person can go a long way in building trust. This includes being mindful of cultural differences and sensitivity towards any issues that may affect the other person personally. By following these tips, men and women can work towards building stronger, more trusting relationships.

Examples of how trust can have a positive effect on relationships

Trust is the foundation on which all healthy relationships rely. When there is mutual faith and confidence between two people, it can have a profound positive effect on their relationship. Take, for instance, a romantic relationship where trust is present; couples can confide in each other, share their deepest fears and aspirations, and experience a sense of closeness that would be impossible without it. In a work environment, trust between colleagues can promote teamwork and collaboration, leading to better job satisfaction and productivity. Ultimately, trust serves as a bedrock upon which healthy and fulfilling relationships can be built, leading to greater happiness and satisfaction in all aspects of life.

To end

While differences in trust between men and women may be rooted in biological and societal dynamics, it’s ultimately up to everyone to ensure that these differences don’t become a source of conflict or miscommunication. Through active dialogue, men and women can better understand one another’s perspectives and develop greater levels of trust between them. Trusting each other empowers both individuals to be more positive and secure in their relationship, changing how they relate to each other over the long term. Moving forward, it is essential that men and women continue to work together to find solutions that are mutually beneficial. By incorporating the tips mentioned herein into daily communication habits between them, men and women can create a stronger foundation of mutual trust.

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Jane Frankland is a cybersecurity market influencer, award-winning entrepreneur, consultant and speaker. She is the Founder of KnewStart and the IN Security Movement. Having held executive positions within her own companies and several large PLCs, she now provides agile, forward thinking organisations with strategic business solutions. Jane works with leaders of all levels and supports women in male dominated industries like cybersecurity and tech. Her book, IN Security: Why a failure to attract and retain women in cybersecurity is making us all less safe' is a best-seller.


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